When planning your wedding ceremony one of the most important parts is finding the right officiant to marry you. Since half of our weddings have their ceremonies onsite we are lucky enough to witness many each year and enjoy getting to see the way these are customized for each couple. Whether you are looking for a religious or non-denominational ceremony, it’s all about finding the individual that you feel comfortable with. Here are a few tips for you:
- Find someone that makes you feel at ease. Your officiant helps guide you through the entire ceremony which at times can be stressful (trying to get the wedding party together, parents/family where they need to be, getting things started on time). Having an officiant that you are comfortable with makes you feel at ease and helps minimize any chance of stress. A person that you are comfortable with will also have the opportunity to get to know you and your personalities that much more, which will show in the words they use during your ceremony.
- Be clear about what will be said during the ceremony. More than one time we’ve spoken with couples after their ceremony and there were parts that surprised them or that they weren’t expecting. Ask questions to make sure you have a full understanding of what will happen. And if you have any concerns be sure to voice them! Your officiant will listen to you and make sure that you get everything you’re hoping for on your wedding day.
- Enjoy this part! The ceremony is the sacred part of the wedding, the part that is actually joining you as a married couple. Sometimes this gets looked over when you’re planning all the fun details of the reception, honeymoon, etc…. But be sure to take time and think about what is important to say during the ceremony, how to make it truly personalized to you as a couple, and what items you’d like to incorporate (songs, readings, unity ceremonies).
- Put things in writing. When first meeting with your officiant (or any vendor in the planning process) it’s hard to remember everything that was said. You may not recall what questions were asked, or the answers in full. This is why it is extremely important to have a clear agreement with the officiant, so you know exactly what to expect. Officiants should provide clear information on what they will and will not do. Whether they have a formal agreement that you sign or not, at least send an e-mail recalling all the points discussed in the first meeting so that it is on paper for all to see.
Below you’ll find names and contact information for several officiants that we’ve had the pleasure of working with over the years, and we highly recommend them!
Flutterby Celebrations……..Dawn Dacut
Ceremonies by Starr……….Rev. Tairie Starr
Minnesota Officiants………..Jill Englund
Grand Avenue Wedding Officiants…..Carolyn Germaine
Judge Tom Armstrong